Tonight when the Giants will Sleep-Dreams of Sir Sachin and Ponting 

A mouth watering game, India Vs. Australia, in a world cup quarter finals, and what a win for India. As I sat glued to the television for the last 7 overs, one thought that went through my mind was not about the story of nail biting finish but by the story of how different will be the dreams of two giants when, after the whole drama and noise will start to fade away and they retire in their respective beds, silently.

The viewers, across India, today will have a real nice dream, as they witnessed India perform to its best. May it be the fielding, Bowling or Batting, India outperformed Aussies in every department of the game, but this post is not about the analysis of the game, but something more interesting, something which will happen tonight, when two of the most talented people in the world of cricket, will retire in their respective beds and the thoughts that will occupy their mind.

Our forefathers have said, ” Even the softest bed cannot give a pleasant sleep to a non hardworker, and even the bed of steel can give a pleasant sleep to a hard worker”.
But what will happen today is something far greater than this, something exact opposite to the saying, as one of the most hard worker and great performer of the match- with a century in his belt-will retire tonight on the softest bed, but will not be able to sleep.

Yes, today after every one will retire in their bed, one man Mr.Ricky Ponting, will hear a cacophony in the silence of night. One of the most talented of the players cricket has ever produced, Mr. Ponting, who have been involved significantly in everything of Australia, right from putting a thought to all the strategies, and motivating the team, and performing to his best – 104 runs and top scorer of the match-will hear silent noises, noises so harsh and powerful that it can wash away years of his hardwork and dedication.

As the stadium will turn lonely, and the big lights will dim, he will sit alone, silently, and the thoughts will play like a flashback about how his years of hard work and dedication towards Australia, and Australian cricket team, will be crushed, analyzed, and will be mocked tomorrow, in every newspaper, television, including the small groups of people, who will give their expert opinions on why he (Ponting) got what he deserved.

As he will prepare himself to go through the pain and pressure for next long months to come, which will seem not to pass away and will seem never ending, there will be one another man, another giant of cricket,who will also witnessed this whole catastrophe over Australia.

Tonight when the whole world will go silent and this great man, will retire in his bed imagine for a minute what thoughts will go through his mind. He has not made the best strategies ( he is not the captain so is a part of the strategy ), neither he has given his best performance ( only 53 runs), but today when this institution of Cricket, Sir. Sachin Tendulkar will retire on his bed, he will sleep peacefully.

He will sleep peacefully, because the way Sir Sachin defines and judges his performance is far far different from the way ,Mr. Ponting defines it.
Mr. Ponting, defines victory when he performs best, when his team beats the other team, first mentally-by talking shamelessly and senseless in media-and then on ground, and utilizing all the tricks (eyeing the batsman, bowling body line balls, using right or wrong methods) of the trade to just win.

On the other hand, Sir. Sachin defines victory, totally in contrast to what Ponting does. He defines Victory when every member of the team, performs to the best of their ability, try to live the moment, and instead of focusing themselves towards making the outcome most important, work endlessly to live the moment to the fullest and perform their best.

The best example is from today which Raina shared during his after match interview. Raina recalled that before he was about to go to bat, Sachin came to him, and gave him a “hi5″, and just said, “go out their and this is your time, just excel these moments.”

As Raina was asked, how he managed such a positive and calm attitude when he came to bat, his lines were, ” I wanted to live upto the moment for Sachin”. and this answers lot of things to a aware mind.

Today when Sachin will retire in his bed, his mind will not be occupied with the ground, the noise, the dreams of fellow men, the wrong umpire decisions & neither about the victory of India, nor about the way they made Australia loose.

He will not analyze what will happen tomorrow, nor what will happen if they loose the match from pakistan, he will not analyze what if they gave 20 more runs to Aussies, or what if they took two more wickets of Australia.

Sir. Sachin will only think about the nice sleep his body deserves after a rigorous cricket match, as he understands the importance of winning the moments, and not letting the emotions take over.

And that's why, I always say,
” Talent can win Matches, but it takes a Team to win Championship”.

Ponting is a school which specializes in managing and finding exceptional talent, while Sir. Sachin, is an university which specializes in ensuring best performance from every individuals, thus building Team.
Good Night Sir. Sachin, and thanks for being our God, because until God is not great, we mortals will remain small.

Abhinna S Khare

कुछ दिल से....

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रोमल भावसार

तुझे सलाम...

सृजन , शक्ति, सौंदर्य, लज्जा, भरोसा, इन शब्दों के साथ नारी का सहज और अटूट जुड़ाव है। हालांकि एक शब्द और भी है, जिसे उनके साथ अमूमन जोड़ा जाता है। ये शब्द है अबला.....जो उसे सहानुभूति के योग्य बना देता है। लेकिन मौजूदा दौर में नारी असहज नहीं... और ना ही बेचारगी जाहिर करती है। ऐसे में नारी को अबला ठहराना उसे मानसिक रूप से कमजोर करने की साजिश सरीखा है। नारी शक्ति को सलाम करने के मौके इंटरनेशनल वूमेन डे पर रू-ब-रू होते हैं... अपने क्षेत्र में प्रथम महिला होने का गौरव हासिल करने वाली भारतीय महिलाओं से---

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Woman’s day………Is she driving our society?

Woman’s day, the buzz never seems to fade, as practically every woman I met today, right from my Mom, sis, to friends, woman at work, seniors, teachers, at least 50, seems to have a special glow in their eyes.
Originally called International Working Women’s Day marked on March 8, today, this post is not about the reasons of International Women’s day, but rather, about towards which direction are we driving and taking our woman and how society is aiding it.
One particular question I tried to know from every girl/woman I met was, “Why we celebrate woman's day", and I was ready for the punch, because none had an answer.
To curb my curiosity I tried the godly Google, and thus came Wikipedia to rescue. Wikipedia said,
It is a celebration of working woman. The first IWD was observed on 19 March 1911 in Germany, An 'International Women's Day' which was suggested by the German Socialist Clara Zetkin. Clara Zetkin, basic idea was to provide right working conditions and hours to the woman, but today, the very reason of IWD has changed, and is shifting slowly- to not so right direction.
Yes, we have woman who are making a mark in every sphere, and even dominating the men. But how many of us, have put honest efforts to help woman take the driver’s seat. What is our society giving them in return to what they have given to us since aeons?
Female Foeticide in India, is at an all-time high. The same is valid for all the East asian countries, where sex determination has caused the gender ratio to touch new nadirs. But today let us not talk about the social issues, but rather something more dangerous, more toxic, which I feel is far powerful than social issues.
Its the changing mind-set of today's woman. Yes, I am more interested and concerned about the changing mind-set, because its the mind-set which causes the revolution to take place, and the kind of race we are putting our woman into, and in fact driving them, is a real cause of concern.
Woman, the word is now transforming itself into WHO ? MAN?, yes Woman or society whoever it is, but it is driving woman to compete with men, and in this process of senseless competition woman are becoming more manly, right from dressings to behaviours. Don’t misunderstand me that I am against woman wearing jeans, ( as my cute little MBA college friend say to me) but I am perplexed by the reason which I hear from every home, that ," if Bhaiya can do, why can't I"? You don't have to give such reasons, to wear a dress, its absolutely wrong.
I am perplexed because I fail to understand the very logic behind the competition.
Woman vs Men, the society has put a label of competition, and senselessly foolishly we are led into this brutal fight of ego which in turn leads to aloofness.
Common points of conflicts, "You can stay late but I can't. Why?, If you can go out with friends, Why can't I? If you can drink, why can't I?, and this list is a never ending one. The point is, why the comparison, the competition???
The two are not made to compete but to cooperate.Yes to Co-operate and Co-Exists. Men and Woman are two different people brought together in a common place called earth to coexist and create an amiable atmosphere. But today, the basic fundamental link is missing, the link of coexisting has now turned into a race of proving who is better than the other.
One school of thought agree that competition is necessary to bring the best, but such competitions are not to bring the best but if one looks closely the objective and outcome of such competition is to degradation in the intrinsic value of being a woman.
Just take an example of Woman in 70's vs woman in 2011. 70's woman least cared about the brands available, and more deaths were reported due to child birth, while today's woman spend most of her time caring about herself- which is nice- but many have crossed the line of passion vs obsession.There are more children taking birth through scissorian than normal delivery. Is there some thing wrong happening to woman's body?
Fairness is the need of the hour, and business/advertisements have done everything to induce in the mind of a young girl that only fair face is ticket to stardom, and even our Marketers have not left a stone unturned to catch hold of this white beauty fascination.
Is this the obsession we wanted our woman to be in?
70's woman had limited budget, limited opportunities to shop, but unlimited time, while today we have changed the proposition. A working woman, today has unlimited budget-almost-( I know its never enough), unlimited brands to choose, but limited time. She today, has everything she needs, but never gets what  she wants.
Is this where we both Men and women wanted our girls to be?
I am not against the very celebration of Woman, neither jealous against the way woman are progressing. By far I do realize and believe that women are far far enlightened and far capable than what we men are.
But our society has put our woman into a never ending race, and its even worse than the so called rat race we men are into.
Atleast, when we men, win the rat race, we remain a rat, but woman are put into a circular race, a circle of fairness, beautification, mine vs yours, etc etc which has no starting point and no end. And since woman are the source of energy ( Shakti) for the world, we men are finding it harder and harder to cope with the world.
We are witnessing more strained relationships, more divorce than ever, more money but less and less time. We have taken the woman to sky, but have forgotten to give her wings to fly. We have given them enough money and have created opportunities to shine, but have forgotten to hold her hands in the darkest time. We have given them more options to get confused about what to buy, instead of giving her rest. Actually we have given her more work and more responsibility instead of giving her rest and taking care of her.
I might not be big enough to understand the solution, but today, at this point I see the problem, and together we all can define it, because if we don't define the problem, our future generations will never be able to find a solution to it.
Let's pledge to love the woman/girl in our life, our Mom, sisters, friends, and girlfriend/wife. Let's give her wings again, let's stand by her in the darkest night, let us just hold her for as long as she want, and not make a fast move towards sex, let us kiss her forehead rather than her lips, let us enjoy the beauty of how she turns a flat to a home, let us witness her taking care of our child instead of having more helpers to raise a child.
Let us praise her for the inner beauty she has, and free her from the obsession of whiteness, Let us give her enough for her needs, so that her wants doesn't kills her, let us give her opportunities to shine, study and fly, so that she can build the whole family and inturn the whole nation. Of all the great woman you name, have had a great man, who was their to support her in all her dreams.
Let us be Men again.....

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